Mother’s day

On this mother’s day not an ode to my mother although she does deserve one.  No I want to talk about being a mother without a child.  I feel like that.  Being pregnant loosing a child or more then one in my case makes this a bit of a painful day.  Don’t get me wrong I’m happy for all my friends who are blessed with wonderful children, but mother’s day always reminds me of the babies I’ve lost.  I love children and I want my own kids, but sadly it isn’t looking good. Fertility treatments are simply too expensive for us so we will just wait for another miracle.  The confrontation with mother’s day is hard.  If only this was me is something that comes in mind frequently.  I hope that this year I will be strong enough and not break down in tears all day. Never the less I wish all the mothers among my readers and especially my own mother a very special and blessed mother’s day.

Weekend in Belgium

Last week I spend a weekend in Belgium.  My sister threw a surprise party for my mum and I wanted to be there.

On Thursday I had a flight to Belgium and it was a terrible. Although in general I’m very happy flying with THY this time leaving gave me so much stress that I was ill all weekend.  First we almost couldn’t check in on time due to enormous queues.  My sweet husband managed to check me in in the end at the supervisor desk.  Then I had to go through passport control.  The guy studied my passport for a long time while I only had 15 minutes to get to the gate.  The board already said going to gate so I thought they were already boarding. Which wasn’t the case…  I waited almost 2h at the gate.  We left 1h late without any explanation given and the plane was dirty.  Anyway I got to Belgium safely and went outside to look for my mum.  She was driving around and I saw her pass me so I ran after the car shouting.  Luckily some guy saw me running so he signaled her so she finally stopped. I guess it must have looked very funny.

On the first of May I went to the zoo  with my friends.  I didn’t see some of them for years and others I only met online.  I had a great time and  really enjoyed the company of my friends.  The weather was wonderful and enjoyed walking around and seeing all the animals.  I must say that due to constructions the zoo became really really small, but I still walked around for almost 4h.  Afterward I went to eat a nice real halal burger at a place called Medina burger and then I took the train back home to Londerzeel.

On Saturday we first did some shopping (my mum already bought most of the things on my list in the week before) and then I slept a while before getting ready for the surprise party.  My mum thought that we just were going on a little boat ride and then eat at a nice restaurant.  Little did she know that the whole family would be present.  She was so surprised mash’allah.  My sister did a great job organizing it all and she tried to include me as much as possible even though that wasn’t easy.    She also made sure there always was something to eat for me. In each course there was a fish dish and the appetizer was mainly fish. It was nice to see all of my family again.  Some family members I hadn’t seen for more then 3 years. We talked until late in the evening and we weren’t home till past 12 o’clock.

On Sunday I woke up and got ready at 4h30 (yes in the morning) and my mum drove me to the airport.   The check in went really smooth. The only problem I had was the area behind the passport control… they changed it and now you have to walk through a cloud of perfume due to the new set up of the shops (there are no shops it is just 1 big shop now). I’m allergic to most of the perfume so I gasped for air when I was halfway through only to be jumped upon by a sales clerk to ask which perfume I wanted to try.  I literally ran.  The bookshop also disappeared and was replaced by a newspaper stand with a very limited selection of books unfortunately. All in all I was at the gate very quickly and after waiting for a while I finally could enter the plane and fly home.  By the time I got home I was tired and ill, but happy to be home.  Monday was horrible but I went to sleep as soon as I got home and I’m feeling much better today.

I had a wonderful weekend in Belgium and it was well worth being tired and ill now.

A weekend at Bolu

On the 24th of April my wonderful sister in law got married. Her husband’s parents are living in Bolu so they got married there. We wanted to be there as well, but due to the fact that the ministry of education declared the 24th of April a normal school day, we just couldn’t get there on time. We were even too late for the pictures due to the very busy traffic, however we were not to late to meet her new inlaws. Luckily my husband could borrow a car from a friend because else going would habe been impossible.  When we finally got there, we had a wonderful dinner together and the next day it was time for some fun…

On Saturday we went picnicking on the families favourite picnic area. We made tea, ate cake and played several games. Passing the ball, jump rope and 9 taş or 9 stones a classic turkish game.

9 taş goes like this: the group was split up into 2 teams. 3 stones were pilled up. Team A needed to throw a ball and make the stones fall down once they did that the game really started.  Team B got the ball and had to try to hit people from team A with it. At the same time people from team A tried to get back to the 9 stones and pile them up. When they pile them back up they win but if team B hits all people of team A out then they win. Although it seems easy enough it was very hard and it is a very strategic game that also requires a good condition. 

After playing with the whole family, my sweet husband took me, my sil and her husband to Gölcük,a beautiful lake where we walked, talked and took some wonderful pictures. After that we went to pick up the family at the picnic area and we went on our way to our next stop: Düzce.

Mustafa’s aunt and uncle have weekend house there. Mustafa’s parents already went there the previous day and we went there together with the new inlaws. The road was really bad and I was scared to death. Mustafa’s mum made delicious  gözleme and after talking the whole evening. My sil and the inlaws went home but we stayed for the night.

The next day we went for a walk because the weather was nice and the environment was beautiful.  My husband decided to take of his socks and shoes and to wade in a little stream. After 5 steps he gave up because the mountain water was freezing.  His nephew did even better. In summer when there isn’t a lot of water, he drives his bike through it all the time and he wanted to do it this time as well…  big mistake halfway through the water was too deep so he tipped over and fell in.  Very funny to see. After our walk it was bbq time and we enjoyed a nice meal of köfte and chicken. After dinner we went home and we were vere unlucky with the traffic.  The plan was to stop in Sakarya where my friend Y. lives, but it was already so late that we had to skip that. It was maybe for the best, because it was midnight before we got home.

I had a really nice time and hope to go back soon, because there is so much more to see and to do. I hope that we can stop by my friend Y. then.

A weekend at Bolu

On the 24th of April my wonderful sister in law got married. Her husband’s parents are living in Bolu so they got married there. We wanted to be there as well, but due to the fact that the ministry of education declared the 24th of April a normal school day, we just couldn’t get there on time. We were even too late for the pictures due to the very busy traffic, however we were not to late to meet her new inlaws. Luckily my husband could borrow a car from a friend because else going would habe been impossible.  When we finally got there, we had a wonderful dinner together and the next day it was time for some fun…

On Saturday we went picnicking on the families favourite picnic area. We made tea, ate cake and played several games. Passing the ball, jump rope and 9 taş or 9 stones a classic turkish game.

9 taş goes like this: the group was split up into 2 teams. 3 stones were pilled up. Team A needed to throw a ball and make the stones fall down once they did that the game really started.  Team B got the ball and had to try to hit people from team A with it. At the same time people from team A tried to get back to the 9 stones and pile them up. When they pile them back up they win but if team B hits all people of team A out then they win. Although it seems easy enough it was very hard and it is a very strategic game that also requires a good condition. 

After playing with the whole family, my sweet husband took me, my sil and her husband to Gölcük,a beautiful lake where we walked, talked and took some wonderful pictures. After that we went to pick up the family at the picnic area and we went on our way to our next stop: Düzce.

Mustafa’s aunt and uncle have weekend house there. Mustafa’s parents already went there the previous day and we went there together with the new inlaws. The road was really bad and I was scared to death. Mustafa’s mum made delicious  gözleme and after talking the whole evening. My sil and the inlaws went home but we stayed for the night.

The next day we went for a walk because the weather was nice and the environment was beautiful.  My husband decided to take of his socks and shoes and to wade in a little stream. After 5 steps he gave up because the mountain water was freezing.  His nephew did even better. In summer when there isn’t a lot of water, he drives his bike through it all the time and he wanted to do it this time as well…  big mistake halfway through the water was too deep so he tipped over and fell in.  Very funny to see. After our walk it was bbq time and we enjoyed a nice meal of köfte and chicken. After dinner we went home and we were vere unlucky with the traffic.  The plan was to stop in Sakarya where my friend Y. lives, but it was already so late that we had to skip that. It was maybe for the best, because it was midnight before we got home.

I had a really nice time and hope to go back soon, because there is so much more to see and to do. I hope that we can stop by my friend Y. then.

A weekend at Bolu

On the 24th of April my wonderful sister in law got married. Her husband’s parents are living in Bolu so they got married there. We wanted to be there as well, but due to the fact that the ministry of education declared the 24th of April a normal school day, we just couldn’t get there on time. We were even too late for the pictures due to the very busy traffic, however we were not to late to meet her new inlaws. Luckily my husband could borrow a car from a friend because else going would habe been impossible.  When we finally got there, we had a wonderful dinner together and the next day it was time for some fun…

On Saturday we went picnicking on the families favourite picnic area. We made tea, ate cake and played several games. Passing the ball, jump rope and 9 taş or 9 stones a classic turkish game.

9 taş goes like this: the group was split up into 2 teams. 3 stones were pilled up. Team A needed to throw a ball and make the stones fall down once they did that the game really started.  Team B got the ball and had to try to hit people from team A with it. At the same time people from team A tried to get back to the 9 stones and pile them up. When they pile them back up they win but if team B hits all people of team A out then they win. Although it seems easy enough it was very hard and it is a very strategic game that also requires a good condition. 

After playing with the whole family, my sweet husband took me, my sil and her husband to Gölcük,a beautiful lake where we walked, talked and took some wonderful pictures. After that we went to pick up the family at the picnic area and we went on our way to our next stop: Düzce.

Mustafa’s aunt and uncle have weekend house there. Mustafa’s parents already went there the previous day and we went there together with the new inlaws. The road was really bad and I was scared to death. Mustafa’s mum made delicious  gözleme and after talking the whole evening. My sil and the inlaws went home but we stayed for the night.

The next day we went for a walk because the weather was nice and the environment was beautiful.  My husband decided to take of his socks and shoes and to wade in a little stream. After 5 steps he gave up because the mountain water was freezing.  His nephew did even better. In summer when there isn’t a lot of water, he drives his bike through it all the time and he wanted to do it this time as well…  big mistake halfway through the water was too deep so he tipped over and fell in.  Very funny to see. After our walk it was bbq time and we enjoyed a nice meal of köfte and chicken. After dinner we went home and we were vere unlucky with the traffic.  The plan was to stop in Sakarya where my friend Y. lives, but it was already so late that we had to skip that. It was maybe for the best, because it was midnight before we got home.

I had a really nice time and hope to go back soon, because there is so much more to see and to do. I hope that we can stop by my friend Y. then.

Cheese with spices (çökelek peynir)

Last week I had breakfast with a few colleagues in kindergarten and one of them had some really nice cheese with spices.  I asked where I could buy it,  but she told me she made it herself. So I tried it as well.  I bought lor peynir a cheese that doesn’t really has a lot of flavour and is very dry. I think that you could use cottage cheese if you don’t find lor peynir in your local Turkish supermarket.  In Turkey they don’t really sell cottage cheese, but on a food group they told me to replace cottage cheese with lor peynir so it should also work the other way around. Then it is very simple.  You just bring it to taste with salt, pul biber (spicy dried paprica flakes), kekik (oregano), çörek (nigella seeds) and you add olive oil.  Everything to taste especially the olive oil.  You can use another oil if you prefer.  Keep in mind that the olive oil is to make it moiste because else it will be very, very dry. I actually didn’t know it’s name so I asked on the cooking group and learned that it is probably çökelek peynir.  I just call it cheese with spices. On the cooking group they also told me that normally they also add some tomato or pepper paste but I didn’t have that at the time and it tastes great without it in any case.  It is very simple and easy to make and very low budget. We just eat it on bread, but maybe I will use it in a borek or in pogaca  just to give it a try.

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Turkish citizenship: How did the jury go?

On 10 February I had jury for my turkish citizenship. I was super stressed and when we arrived we learned that there was a mistake with the hours. The guy gave us a wrong hour and noted another time in our file. Luckily we had all our papers with us so we could provide proof that we actually were on time.  I was very stressed by the time I had to go in, but it went super smooth.  They asked where I was from, where we lived, what my husband’s job was, if we rented or owned our house. How much rent we paid. How long we lived in Belgium.  I made a few small mistakes but inşallah it will be ok. My husband got the same questions and they also commented on our different level of education probably to get a reaction. Now we wait for news. I hope to learn soon if I passed or not.

New posts

I still need to post some new posts, but with everything that is going on in my life I’m having a hard time blogging for the moment. I also had some technical difficulties with a plugin that blocked the access to the login page of my blog. I will try to post an update on how it went with the jury and the protected post in the upcoming days, but I can’t promise anything.

Protected post women only

I will post a protected post soon. Since it is a personal “women’s” blog it will be password protected.  Who wants the password can contact me on Facebook or leave a message here.

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